If you feel like you’re swiping through a herd of wildebeests when you open up Tinder, allow me to formally congratulate you on being statistically ugly!
When you use Tinder, your profile has a hidden score intended to match you up with people “in your league.” The score is based on Elo, a system originally invented to determine how skilled a player is at Chess. The methodology is simple; your score increases when people right swipe you, conversely decreasing with a left swipe. Your Tinder stack ends up being populated by potential dates with a similar score to you. Not too happy with what you’re seeing? Sorry to say that it might be you.
Bumble, a rival dating app that has surged in popularity since Tinder started limiting swipes is a different story. Instead of matching you with people around your attractiveness, Bumble instead pushes the most right swiped people right to the front of the line. So the bulk of your swiping is going to be used on wildly attractive and successful people that you and I have no chance with.
If you’re a guy who hasn’t tried the app yet, you’ll be surprised how many Harvard Graduate Investment Banker Babes there are out there parading their massive boobs around on a dating app. (And I assume bros with great abs if you’re a girl) Of course I don’t expect to match with them, but I personally find that swiping through online profiles I have no chance with is a very therapeutic form of self-loathing.
For those who don’t know Bumble’s gimmick, it forces the girl to message the guy first within 24 hours or the match is deleted. If a girl match never reaches out, guys can choose one girl per day to extend the messaging period an additional 24 hours. But if you’re not one of the most attractive people out there/have a really lucrative job (Bumble emphasizes jobs over alma mater) you’re likely going to be swiping for a while before you even have to worry about that.
Some of the local fare on Bumble. Wishful thinking.
Which app is better?
It probably depends on the kind of person you are.
I have a much higher hit ratio on Tinder, but the girls I match with can be pretty sketchy sometimes. It’s most likely due to the scoring system. At the risk of gassing myself up, I’d say that I’m attractive, but not traditionally attractive. A study done on OKCupid did determine that dating apps are (obviously) a lot easier for white people than nonwhites, so I do have to wonder if the score of minorities such as myself are negatively impacted by people who exclusively date white. Therefore, I can’t help but get the feeling that more attractive girls without racial preferences aren’t seeing my profile. But the traditionally attractive thing doesn’t even necessarily have to be a race thing. I’m sure some decent guys out there with like, beards or something get auto left swiped because they have a beard. If you fill some sort of niche, like being Jewish, that’s when you might start want to start looking for more specific apps like JSwipe.
As for myself, I’d say that Bumble is much better for me than Tinder. I like having my job listed in plain sight, and although I don’t get as many matches as I do on Tinder, the ones I’ve gotten have been very attractive and obviously willing to talk since they messaged me first.
In a way, Tinder is a dating app that’s not a dating app. It’s massive and used by regular people. If somebody even knows what Bumble is, they’ve probably had a disenfranchising experience on Tinder, or are also present on OKCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, or any of the other dozens of dating sites out there. People on those sites are more likely to be primary internet daters as opposed to regular people “looking for a fling that could maybe be something more,” that most people are looking for. But for some, that can be a downside. I know plenty of people who swipe on Tinder just for the ego boost, not intending to talk or meet with any of the people they match with. I personally feel that getting seemingly great matches on Tinder that don’t actually talk to you is a worse tease than the dimepiece Ivy League Lawyer profiles thrown at me when I first opened the app.
So if you’re not getting the kind of profiles you want on your tinder stack and don’t think you’re ugly, there IS statistical proof telling you that there’s something wrong with your profile. Maybe go get some professional photos taken, or not sound like a stalker in your bio. Happy Tindering.